Tuesday, October 28, 2008

Self Confidence vs Arrogance


Self Confidence vs arrogance is a debatable issue because they can be mistaken for one another. Are you building self confidence? Do people see it as confidence or arrogance?

Can you tell them apart? It can be difficult. If people don't know you, what might come across as arrogant might actually be self confidence gone overboard.

Self confidence can be seen in people who are self assured, yet who are sufficiently humble to accept the fact that they are not always right. They are ready and willing to consider other people's points of view, rather than strictly adhering to their own.

Self confident people do not get upset if their ideas and opinions are challenged. Quite the opposite. They are open to stimulating discussions from all sides before reaching a conclusion.

Arrogant people, on the other hand, only 'appear' self assured and self confident. Actually, they lack confidence and use arrogance to compensate. Their arrogance leaves little room for topic debates or consideration of other people's opinions and feelings. It's quite common for arrogant people to show little concern for anything but their own beliefs.

If you're building self confidence from a life of low self esteem, you are likely to exaggerate your confidence which shows to others as arrogance. It's likely that you are building self confidence, but are still struggling with other issues such as low self worth and ineffective social skills brought on by the isolation of low self esteem.

To boost self esteem and self confidence, you are likely to take a rigid stance on issues even if your conclusions are wrong. You might tend to put other people and their ideas down in an effort to protect yourself.

Arrogant people become boastful in certain situations when they feel threatened. That's because they are struggling to maintain the confidence they have acquired. They are unsure of how stable their confidence really is. In fact, they probably harbor a great deal of doubt about themselves.

People with a healthy level of self confidence are positive and open. They naturally attract other positive people and gain their respect readily.

Are you building self confidence or arrogance?

If you are easily anxious, unsure of yourself, argumentative, and unwilling to consider another person's point of view, you are leaning towards arrogance. If you are calm within yourself, comfortable with who you are and willing to freely discuss opposing ideas without being judgmental, congratulations. You are a confident individual.

If you're arrogant you have a lot of work to do, but it's quite within reach for you to build self confident and become self assured. Begin by discovering yourself. Try to establish your motives and see what you need to do to resolve them.

Building self confidence takes time, but it can be done by discovering your strengths and focusing on those. Direct your confidence-building to those areas first and in time, you can expand it to all areas of your life.

5 komentar:

Rhonda said...

Just so you know - it's ideas, not idea's

ca said...

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Ammy said...

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Wizard said...

My test: arrogance - rush to comment without understanding or even reading this post. Self-confidence - reading, understanding and most probably agreeing to some points and disagreeing with others.
In my case I can't think of anything else that can be said. Excellent post mate.

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